One way I found was to truly believe in 'You Will Be Alright Regardless Of Your W's Choices'.

It did help me to forgive myself over my actions and inaction pre BD. It wasn't a quick remedy but slowly you will feel it.

I hope this helps.

M35 XW34
D5 D4
M 6years T 10years
Bomb 5/2013
Joint Petition signed 6/2013
Moved out end of 8/2013
Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013
D finalized in 3 months - no news yet