Hoping to still move forward, huge setback

[cbtdad]

Had MC appointment today. We did an extended session for 2 hours. He walked us through the events that led up to the big fight Saturday night and that followed the next couple of days. Really went through our emotions and feelings stage by stage. I told him how everything seemed to be great Sunday afternoon, but the. A lot of anxiety was building in me Monday. I am having a hard time accepting a lot of things and this has brought up a lot of bad feelings about the affair and past.
I said that I feel a big problem in this is that my wife shows no empathy for me. That she shows no remorse for her actions. He asked if she was remorseful and she said no. She said bein remorseful to her is let admitting defeat and that she did something wrong. Are you kidding me?!? She said she is sorry that we had to go through all of this and all this pain, but she doesn't want to say remorseful because she feels like all of this needed to happen for us to get to where we are now. This is really hard for me to hear. The fact that she doesn't feel bad for all the hurt and anger I have is really getting to me and I'm having a hard time not blowing up about it.
Also explained to MC about the fact that W is "ok" with OM now. It's not that I think she isn't past it or that she wants to be in contact with him. That doesn't worry me right now.
What worries me is that she thinks that its alright and now she is ok with OM being around with other friends and stuff. I've tried to explain my concerns but it seems to go in one ear and out the other.
I feel like we are on a path for disaster, but I don't know how to communicate it to her because she just doesn't see it.
I'm really trying to keep a cool head at the moment