Wow, well that's a pretty complicated sitch. My initial reaction is that you should tell her you're moving home (don't ask her, just tell her that's what you're doing) and then follow through and do it. If she wants to leave then let her leave, but that's her decision to make. If you choose not to go home then you're making that decision for her. I wouldn't ask her if it's OK with her, or ask her what she thinks about it, just tell her in as matter-of-fact a way as you can.
