I am in a similar situation. W and still live together with the kids for the time being but she wants a D ASAP.
the only thing I think we can do is detach and accept what they are saying to be true, "they want out". You cant fix them and you cant control them.
The best advice I have is to accept what the MLSer says and move forward with your life without your H.
Improve yourself and GAL. From what I have learned here, when they say they are done, they mean it! They can have a change of heart but, they still have to go through the MLC process to deal with their issues.
I know it is a terrible way to go through life right now. I have been living it for almost 8 months now and my W is still "full steam ahead" with the D.
I was advised to not stand in her way of the D but also, not to help her. She will have to do it all herself. I think eventually, she will wake up to the fact that she has done so much damage to the kids and our marriage. When they realize you were there for them (standing for them), once they come out of the fog/tunnel, it will make it easier for them to come back to you. If they come back.
No guarantees though. That's is why you should be moving on with your life with out them for now.
