My question about need refusal was a selfish one -- I realize your H isn't going to step up on that front. I assumed IC was talking about other or future relationships and wonder what she had to say about having your request refused.
I'm a "giver" by nature so when I read the 5 LL's I thought "excellent!" It didn't even occur to me that someone would outright say "no" when asked, but W did, so what then? Your IC seems particularly good so I wondered if that came up.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015