Me 1 year on

[hotwheelsaust]

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Ruby: thanks for your input. I don't want to come across as being rude either. I am taking the high road here (hope that's the right road) where I show people how much I have learnt this year and most importantly have changed for the better. I do agree with you, that the W simply wants nothing that reminds her of the old life.

2old: thanks also for your reply. It is so true that I need to focus more now on the two different journey's, mine and the W's.

TTD180: you are right, no need to scrutinize. I am sure she is on a different time frame to me anyway. What I perceive as being very slow, she might see as happening quickly. Mail isn't being directed at this stage. I am still in the house that I have been for nearly the 3 years. Mail will be redirected when I move out in two months time.

F: I get what you are saying. My 180 of replying has been done so many times with no real reaction from her at all over this year. So if I didn't reply to this email, then it won't make a difference to what she felt about me before BD.
With regards to the two quotes. The first one was me just quickly putting words together telling the forum what has happened. The second quote was the exact words in the first paragraph of the email. Both from the same email.
Yes, the W has initiated all the major things: initiated the BD, the moving out, the splitting of assets. I have not initiated anything apart from advising the work union back in the beginning to stop taking her payments out of my bank account.

As I said earlier: I need to change a lot of my focus and even goals now.
I will spend some time thinking more about it all. But for now I really need to focus on this is her journey, she has chosen to go down this path and I cannot do anything about it. All I can do is choose my path and travel down it. And while I am travelling down my own path, I need to be the best for my boys, improve my positive outlook in life and get out and do more things.

Thanks again to all those people who have taken some time from their lives to help me and my life. Appreciate it.