That's normal behavior for them JF. They can't have us thinking they're getting close to us when they're not feeling it. You have to mirror her coolness, (no pressure) but in a pleasant manner.

I'm glad you stopped the ILY's and cheek kisses. Things will get better, but not for a while.

Some of my W's common greetings:

"Hey"
'grunt"

I still say "Hello" "Good morning" etc.
She always goes to bed w/o a word.

Many emails are responded to with "k"

You have to find your own happiness right now. No counting on W to meet your needs/wants. The good news is you can do this.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl