on the edge...

[dingo]

Thanks to both of you guys for your advice (and everyone else as well). It has all been great and very helpful.

I think my state of mind is pretty good right now. I have decided to just take a stand. It has rarely been a problem for me in the past to just chose the stance that I believe is right and stand up for it. I have accepted that the priority of outcomes is:

1. Reconciliation
2. Divorce
3. Limbo (status quo)

I have also accepted the fact that she may need to feel some real pressure/loss before she can really get off the fence. I have also come to realize that despite what she may say, she knows what the right thing to do is and she knows what's best for her long-term. These things will have to get me through if she crosses the one primary boundary again.

This is not to say that I expect her full cooperation and involvement from here on out. I am willing to be patient with her recovery and her healing, so long as zero contact is maintained.