CC, You'll know when and where to set your boundaries. If you need help around the home, ask him. If he says no, find someone else to do it.
Bottom line, you are in more control over your situation than you think.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
