My H pursued D latter half of 2012 and I had opportunity and did both of your options, while D papers were sitting in the lawyer's office waiting to be signed by him.
The worst was when I would go and have a beer and then he would say something unexpected that I couldn't handle emotionally and I broke down. This had a very unpleasant ending.
Another time, two weeks before expected signing...it was very pleasant and jokey. Why? I had resigned myself to D, knew I wasn't going to be "best buds" afterwards, and knew I wanted a great R with him as ex's. We laughed about us getting D. I looked great and he said so. He even took pics of me which was uncommon.
So, I know you'll do your best either way. But it may be a little early to go and risk showing your hurt in front of her specially after having a couple of beers or if she says something you don't expect.
Just my two cents.
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
