Did you really tell her that you are trying to live as much of my life as possible as if she isn't coming back? How did she answer that?
I think I used the phrase "as if you still want to D"...but I really don't remember exactly. Her reaction was what I think was a look of care, and then a look down. But no words.
I know a lot of what I said was not terribly DB. Thing is, I an an open, open person to those close to me...maybe reserved publicly, I don't always offer it up, but when asked, or deemed necessary/helpful, I am pretty much what you see is what you get.
The advice from here, IC, friends is, be yourself...well, that is me. I like that about me. I don't have the strong need/want like our Scorpios for secrets and privacy.
Another thing from IC is that W likes/needs to be pursued (um, yep, lol). I should try an occasional "touch" of pursuit, otherwise W may, if she is still fence-sitting, or moving towards R, think I am not interested and give up. In a way, being pursued is a LL of hers, if that makes sense. And I have been dim enough for long enough that an occasional hint of pursuit isn't going to make or break the sitch, atm.
So, I had my say, tried a bit of mentor role maybe, now back to "aloof, yet available" and maybe a bit more initiation, depending on my read of her state atm. Idk. Just rolling with it, because I will be okay, either way.
And no hug, neither <pat><pat> nor "side-hug"...lol.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
