Thread #4- The pivot I hoped wouldn't come

[Positivespin]

How about-

"If you feel that this is a step you must take you make the call"

Thoughts?

Thanks Ruby

[Positivespin]

So my response was this

"If you must do this now you can make the call"

and she responds back;

Is there some reason to wait? I had thought I would wait until the house sold, but that doesn't seem like it is going to happen for a while.

ideas on a response to this????/

[jp787]

If you agree with waiting for the house to sell, then reply with that.

I agree that it would make more sense to wait for the house to sell.

[littleGTO]

PS, What do YOU want to do?? That is the real question here.

Hope you are doing well, today, my friend!!

[jp787]

PS, How is your day? (A$$ man)

[Positivespin]

SOOOO the house is now sold
I have been dark for over 4 months-
I have been getting a life...and decided to go on a cruise last minute (in a few weeks)
My W made a appt for a mediator

AND I JUST RECEIVE A EMAIL FROM MY WIFE; No message just a link to a article in the NY Times-
"Long after a child has recovered from a serious illness or injury, families can be left dealing with the symptoms of post-traumatic stress."

(Background- D3.5 was born 6 weeks early at 3 lbs, we lived in a hospital for a month)

WTF???? Is this her "grieving stage" or looking for an excuse from some guilt

Any thoughts on a response or no response?

THANKS TEAM !

[labug]

Stop trying to read motive when unless she tells you what her motive is you will never now.

Take if for what it is, a kind gesture related to a traumatic situation that you both shared. No more, no less.

Maybe your response could be: "Interesting, thanks for sending the article." (but only if that's how you feel)


Don't try to figure out how she's feeling, figure out how YOU'RE feeling.

[Positivespin]

The house inspection is going on right now. My mother in Law just returned from a three week trip overseas to find our house sold, D3.5 in a new school and possible Mediation.

Its been a busy 3 weeks:)

Norwegian cruise line has designed "studios" (Tiny closet like cabins) designed for single travelers. Naturally, I had no idea. I wanted a balcony but the "single supplement" was just not worth it for me at this time.

Ive never been on a cruise before- might hate it- but I know I love the Caribbean. I know i love sun and warmth. Im thinking im going to get off the boat- rent a jeep and get as far as I can away from the 4,000+ others ruining the island.

THANKFULLY, I have become so much stronger emotionally and because of all the positive changes im finding some confidence. I began with a day at the beach by myself....now 7 days on a boat without a companion.

I had a dream about my w coming and it was our chance to reconnect. Those dreams are few and far between now. I then had a dream about meeting someone, we hit it off, and I asked "sooooo, what are you doing next week?" LOL

Anyway, more stamps in my passport and more travel with my backpack......

BUT ONLY AFTER, I pack up my "forever house" and hand over the keys.

I look forward to speaking with Mom in law tonight-

[LBH_LC]

Stay strong, brother. You're doing great!

[Positivespin]

What a f'ing rollercoaster!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The deal for the house fell through. "Too many little things that added up to alot of $$$".(The house is from 1832) W called me up crying as she ASSUMED it was sold and signed a lease on a swanky new apartment (as swanky as maine gets)

To add further insult- The inspector busted a waterline to my kitchen and didnt bother to say anything.....so I had a shower in my basement and a flowing river.

So no cruise for me.