Anyway, how do I handle all this anger and hate directed at ME because he lost his precious OW???!!!
The same way you would treat the ridiculous and irrational temper tantrums of a toddler: ignore the behavior and it will stop. If absolutely necessary (for example, physical danger), firmly enforce your boundaries and expectations of behavior from the individual. In the case of dealing with an adult, simply removing yourself from the situation (physically leaving or turning off your phone, as examples) can suffice.
Treat people how they act. If they want to act like a child, treat them like a child. And one of the worst things a parent can do to a child is let the child think he or she can affect the parent's resolve.
So what he does and says? It doesn't affect you in any way. Got it?He no longer possesses the ability to control your emotions.
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Will he get over it and stop being such a jerk?
I don't know. He sounds like he has a few demons to conquer.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
