14th Thread to Somewhere Uncertainly

[RosaLinda]

Thanks for updating us T, we're sort of pesky after not hearing from you from over a week, sorry. And I"m sorry this is a hard time of year for you, it sounds as if you are experiencing BD PTSD. And it's great that you can see that maybe her middle and high school years are causing some of her issues and it is being in school functions that is the trigger, and her behavior does not have anything to do with you. My first marriage counselor told me once to assume that 90% of my H's actions have nothing to do with me. Now THAT is difficult to imagine LOL!

I like W's answers to your mini-R talk. It sounds as if she is really working on herself, to the point where she can recognize that she is spacy and in her own world. My H is spacy and in his own world most of the time these days, but would be really surprised to hear that! The eye contact and caring look are good signs too! No accompanying half <pat><pat> hug though?

Did you really tell her that you are trying to live as much of my life as possible as if she isn't coming back? How did she answer that?

I'm pretty excited about you sending flowers from her fellas for her birthday. Did you decide whether to send them to her job yet? A couple of my coworkers have gotten flowers at work on their birthdays, and it always seemed like such a loving caring gesture! But it might be too much for W. Is she a scorpio? My H is scorpio, more like a scorpion sometimes. He sent all of his EAs flowers every birthday, and he's had a bunch of them. Me - never