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Jon,

You are being hammered by the VETs and they have good reasons for doing this IMO.

To me it seems like you are all over the place! You live in the land of confusion and you change your opinions, your path and your goals every other day. I have been there! It’s not a nice place to be in!
You need to get a grip on yourselves whether you want your W back or not doesn’t matter.

VETs have advised you and do read their post again. I just want to add this:

I have often told people in here to apply the 48 hour rule before initiating communication with the WAS and I certainly urge you to do the same thing. Different thing is that you need to do before deciding ANYTHING!
You seem like a very emotional guy and you decide purely on the grounds of emotions and here the 48 hour rule could help you. IMO you need consistency in your life and acting on emotions in an emotional time gives you the exact opposite. The problem is very simple: Emotions change!! That’s why we all read you as being all over the place and properly you don’t see this the way we do.

Every time you feel like:

telling W something
deciding something for yourselves
taking a stand
deciding an opinion

….apply this easy rule. You can also with benefit sometimes choose the big brother – the 96 hour rule!

If you still think the same after 48/96 hours the chance of not acting on emotions has increased tremendously.

You need to decide what you want and then stick to a path for long enough to decide if the chosen path does Jon any good.

I hope the above makes sense and please recall that this is well meant!

I wish you all the best!

F