Releasing...

[NTX_Dad]

I have to be honest and a 2x4 isn't big enough. You are here for a second time for a reason.

Jon you seem to have control issues and expect a quick fix. You assume she has a problem and expect her to snap out of it. Do you really love her, or do you just want her back so that you win this battle and life goes back to the old, bad "normal"?

As far as I can see, the roller coaster is you. You have not DB'ed or GAL'ed at all. You are so back and forth, we are confused. I can only imagine the confusion your W feels. No wonder she's indecisive, she doesn't know what JonF she's going to see day to day.

One day you love her, the next you are ready to date. Wow, just wow. Then when you are called out on it, you dismiss it to frustration. There seems to be way too much drama and frankly it seems immature.

My executive summary: You both are confused, you both really do care about each other, you both don't trust each other, neither of you has fundamentally changed yet, you both need to go dark for a while and work on yourselves, no texting/coffee in underwear/dinners/party at mutual friends together/phone calls at all except if its logistics about the kids.

I don't want to sound negative, we are all rooting for you and your marriage.