Why are you confused by her, this is about what you want to say to her.

Who you want to be.

You're right, you could have said nothing and then if she continued to contact you and you didn't want that, you could have created a boundary.

Be honest about the dating thing. Why did you put it in there, because you're hurting and you want her to hurt? One last knife twist to see if she's jealous and comes back with a reaction?

You also send her mixed messages and I think that's what all these posters above are trying to say, figure out why you do these things. Your convenient response is to blame it on her.

It's not her.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss