What your H is doing brought to mind something that my W told me on our anniversary "date" and her choice of movie (the choice was a feel-good middle aged type movie, or a fantasy epic type)...that she was "not into reality right now, I am into fantasy". She said as much a couple other times since then. And it kind of fits in with her online OM thing (wherever that is at these days).
So, you may be on to something, and it's as good a working theory as any with these mlc'ers...
Hang in there!!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
