Becoming Patient Man III - Moving Forward

[PatientMan]

My parents usually visit from out of state for Thanksgiving and her dad usually visits from out of state for Christmas - this has been the M.O. for the last ~5 years and it's worked out well.

My parents would like to come the following month (Dec) to see me graduate, and they have expressed an aversion to traveling twice within about a month's time. (I'm not sure what the deal with that is...they're retired and aren't around any family, but that isn't really on topic.) Regardless, I hadn't thought about taking the girls anywhere away from home for any of the upcoming holidays.

This past Friday afternoon XW called me from the bathtub (this was the before later in the evening when she cried and said she didn't like it when I left). I hadn't asked, but she said she would be fine with me taking the kids to my parents out of state for Thanksgiving if that made it easier for my parents to see the kids. She acknowledged last year when she didn't really want me to take them to my parents instead of them coming here, something I thought might be helpful because the atmosphere was expected to be weird with my parents around since W & I were separated at the time. I'm sure W felt uneasy with my parents there, knowing most of our sitch and wondering what they thought of her.

I really don't want to go anywhere because my schedule is just too hectic, so though I had no plans of taking the girls out of state for the holiday, I thought it was a nice gesture on her part. I wasn't expecting it, so I just said "thank you" and said I would consider it.

-PM