You'll think of me....

[RosaLinda]

Hi Cadet. I told my H that if he goes away with RT again, or if he gets another OW after she is gone, he has to leave our house and not return, and that is how I will enforce these boundaries. He said that I cannot stop him from having friends. Well, there are friends, and there are OW, and he knows the difference.

I am waiting until RT leaves because of my DB coach's advice and because of something I read in Divorce Remedy: "It is very important to give your husband space. He needs time to think, feel and experiment, even if part of the experimentation involves another woman....There may not be much that you can do right now to make things better, but there are a ton of things you can do to make things worse, like interrogation and issuing demands....."

I love him. I know that he is cake eating and has a great set up to live like his selfish self right now, but I am doing my best by him. To give him time to get over this MLC, and to support him in his sickness. Maybe this is putting his needs before mine, but I get a lot in return from him living in our home. Besides his friendship and caring, he does a lot around the house. It's like having a wife who also fixes the car and cleans the boiler. So I have decided to give him time to get over RT. I really think I'm right, and he is leading her on. And it will be over when she gets tired of his lies and tired of waiting. I can wait her out. That is my choice right now, and I think it will get easier as I get more detached.