HWA, thank you for coming by my thread and letting me know what your coach said. I went and read it all...Well, there is no question in my mind you need to reply with the short polite first response you mentioned. Fog, desert, sand, forward or behind, the LBS can only do for them. It's up to our WAS'S to go through their own thing.
All the vet's have absolutely convinced me the WAS have to go through their own journey. Whether they figure out what they really want is up to them. They made their initial choice of leaving and it's for them to live out whatever they are feeling for however long it lasts......