I still say a short reply (your first) is in order. I am not a fan of rude nor of not opening a door a crack to see what comes through.
Perhaps she just doesn't want all that stuff anymore HWA. My H goes through purges. Perhaps she needs to just have nothing to link her to what she perceives as her old life.
I agree with F, you maintained and payed for houses, bought her out and continue on. There is nothing untoward about that.
