Me 1 year on

[hotwheelsaust]

Well just finished my conversation with the coach:

Firstly, just a few minutes before speaking to the coach, I checked my emails, and there is one from the W. "hotwheels, I apologise for taking so long, but I have accepted your offer of the splitting of assets. Papers will be sent from the solicitor"
Bugger, but couldn't have come at a better time with the coach session only a few minutes away.

Some of the things from the coach:
* If I respond to her email, leave if for a day or two, and then respond with a short note. Something along the lines of "W, I accept your offer, I am sorry it has come to this. hotwheels".
* Focus on my future (positives) for moving back to the city, now owning the houses, being back with my boys.
* My W may not know how to get out of her sitch.
* My sitch is like a desert at this stage - cannot see what is behind me, cannot see what is in front of me. Just sand everywhere I look. ie. no answers anywhere
* Continue to focus on my strengths.
* Keep the door open for the W.
* Repeat to the boys, I am open for them to talk to me if they wish.
* Let the boys know I am transferring back.
* Basically, there isn't a huge amount I can do with this sitch (apart from above). This is one of the hardest type of WAS sitches, where there is no contact, but simply a huge wall put up.

My next session will be determined by the future, but the party in less than two weeks will probably lead to the next session with coach.