Willbwell, so sorry you have to face your H like that. I don’t understand why is he insisting to serve the papers to you instead of just mailing or dropping them off? What is so significant about this for him? I would not argue with him right now. If you want to wait it out, then do. I feel your pain, but I have no advice on how to proceed. The only thing I can tell you is that more you resist, the more he will persist with this.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state