Wii is right... at least we don't have to travel this road alone. We're right there with ya, friend.
Have fun with your biking adventures. I do miss those rides with my XH. Now my D16 is his biker babe. She loves it more than I did too (which was a lot).
Dating. Since this is the topic of the threads down here I've actively been posting on, just a few words on getting you back. You're going to have to do the lion's share of that work without a sidekick - because in the future, your identity should be entirely about you and your needs going forward. (I do not mean that in a self-absorbed manner, but moderately selfish in a good way.)
Don't look at your dates as serious potential - just a simple desire to connect with other human beings (who may just happen to be chicks) and take the pressure off yourself? Learn how to identify red flags and act on them if necessary. My guess is if you really learn how to use that filter, you won't have to wonder if she's good for you. And if those red flags appear early on, nip them in the bud.
A friend of mine (ok, who happens to be a medium, but whatever) told me that my filter was broken - that I give people I don't know too much benefit of the doubt. He told me to stop it. It's one thing to give people we know the benefit of the doubt, but not strangers. You have to protect yourself from the emotional vampires, so learn how to develop this sort of awareness.
I know, it's also my work in progress too.
Somehow, you seem like the sort of guy who will find his "sea legs" pretty quickly (sorry for the pun!). At least promise yourself that you won't get serious with someone until you DO know when you've done enough work to get involved again?
Good luck--
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
