My feelings on being good friends after D, go like this. I won't be able to, because I'll always be looking and hoping for it to be more.
Besides, if she wants to end the M, then I want her to go out and find whatever it is she's looking for, on her own. If she ever decides she wants back in, (highly likely in my mind) I might be open to it at that time.
How's that for getting ahead of myself? lol
I have similar feelings. But mine are complicated by the fact that we have kids, so I have to go on seeing W, forever, whether I like it or not.
And whether I like it or not, I will be looking and hoping for more each time I see her for the foreseeable future.
Me:52 Wife:49 Married 19 years Son:16 Daughter:14 Bomb dropped with ILYBNILWY: May 2013 Wife moved out 2Jun13