DARK - how do you do it right? I need help BADLY

[DTM]

I found this post and thought this should be my approach...

I think a lot of people recommend going dark when what they really mean is to detach. Personally I see going dark as a last resort, it is something the LBS does for themselves to help them detach and drop the rope. Going dark rarely if ever gets people back together, because basically going dark is the LBS making themselves unavailable to the WAS, which the WAS interprets as the LBS being cold and distant. What WAS wants to get back together with a cold and distant LBS? I think a more appropriate approach is for the LBS to allow the WAS to see them being happy/ content/ independent/ sexy. Let them see you living your own life, let them see that you will be fine with or without them. Adopt a "friendly neighbor" attitude when you're around them, be nice rather than cold and distant. This isn't "dark" and it isn't "pursuit", it's kind of inbetween.