I forgot to mention the EA lives 200 miles away in the town he grew up in. DH says he knows it will never work out because he will not move there and she won't move here.HE also said he knows he needs to stop it some time but loves her SO much!He has not seen her since the Reunion.
These EA's are tough because it feeds the WAS's fantasy of what a glorious, perfect life they can have together. Once an EA goes PA, the reality of trying to deal with another person's many quirks has a way of crushing the fantasy. You can't do anything to help him on his journey, he's got to figure this out by himself. All you can do is detach from him and work on yourself and leave him to his little fantasy. Just the fact that you know about the A (and that he knows you know) is going to take some of the "fun" out of it because it's no longer a secret.
