She launched into more, and I quit even trying to DB because I just stopped caring.
That says to me that you are not DBing for you, you are doing it for her. Your ability to control your actions when things get emotional is something I see you needing to work on for you no matter what.
Don't get me wrong Jon, there are many things I do in my sitch specifically in attempt to get my w to feel attraction for me ... This may or may not be a positive thing, but I completely separate it from DBing. I think that the things that you seem to be giving up on are things you need to do for you and are not actions you should be taking only to get your w back.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
