you've come here for help. Everything we have offered has been shot down or reasoned away.
I'm sending a 2x4 .
You say you are looking for ways to ignite your wife. She is willing to do this...it IS a step.
Take it for what it is, a gift of love. It seems as though no matter WHAT she does or doesn't do, you are not satisfied.
If that is the case what is the point for her to even try? You know she too can pick up on your attitude, and I'm feeling one here.
You have vented you want all these things sexually , you can't have it with her, so now you want to go outside the marriage. Do you ever think that she has been so turned off by you, that she feels she can't win?
Do you ever think that your attitude IS a contribution to this whole situation?
If you haven't , wake up! You ARE 50% of this situation! Whether you believe it or not!
I've been in her shoes, not as far but pretty darn close. My husband had NO clue. Still doesn't in my opinion.
It is very intimidating to have someone as needy in this department . And she may be perceiving you as needy here. Whether you have discussed this or not lately, there IS a huge amount of pressure on her. Because she knows you want this, need this, and she doesn't know what to do about it.
What have you done to make yourself more attractive to her? What have you done to make her feel safe? How long have you done these things? How long have you stuck with your changes?
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
