I appreciate your advice. I will be reading them in depth again. And ignoring the EA. I know that has been a lot off tension for us. I am dying in side about the EA but no not a deal breaker. I don't understand why he is so instant on staying here. I know there are financial reasons but he has a single friend who said he could stay for free. I don't want to think that DH wants to stay to work it out. However, he does make sure I hear he is done and will never get back together EVERY DAY! As far as working on me; I am eating better, working out, riding my horse, going out to lunch with friends. These are things I have let go. I am trying to be positive, the best person and mom I can be. We did go to CC last time but a waste as my husband lied the hole time because he didn't want to be there. I did some IC at that time as well. We didn't do anything after getting back together. Honestly, we couldn't afford. Also my husband hates it and won't go. As far as arguing yes, we did fall back to old patterns after a couple of years.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
