I did t see the link Cadet provided until after my previous response...

I see this is your second marriage and as you said this is the second time there has been major issues in this second marriage.

I'm curious to know if you've ever been to IC?
Also when your current H returned, it seems you slid back in to old patterns.
Did you and your current H do any counseling after reconciling?

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope