Second time around! Advise please.

[Mimi00]

This first thing id say to do is Re-read DR.....don't just skim it.

Also, learn what it means to lovingly detach from your H; not allowing his words and actions to hurt you or trigger you into your own bad behaviors.

I assume a EA/PA isn't a deal breaker for you? If that is correct, stop bringing up the OW. It will be hard, but you telling him not to talk to her will just make him want to talk to her more. You can't control your H....but you can control your response to him. He may continue to call her....but you need to change your part in this cycle...the arguments over it aren't helping your situation.

Other than being a "yeller"/having poor emotion regulation....what are some other things you'd like to work on for yourself that may also postively affect your marriage?

Start GALing. What are your hobbies and likes? Start going out and building your self worth through positive activities. It will help you take your mind off of your sitch as well.