Since you are officially done, it will be great to see a shift in your thread from the dynamics b/n you & W, to more of a focus on you and what you are doing to become better for yourself. In the thread before this, as well as this one, I get a feeling of anxiousness just by reading...I feel like I am on a rollercoaster ride with you, so I can only imagine how much more intense it is for you & your W with this back and forth, dark, dim, done, not done.

So if you are truly done this time, do you have new goals for working on yourself?

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope