Well TTD, in my case it would be just to make her feel better I guess. She has her family where she is at now so no need to have me around her for any guilty feelings. I do wonder though, AS keeps mentioning a little contact should be made just to keep them from deleting you from thier mind completely. And yet any contact I made in the past didn't seem to bring out anything much from her.
I guess for now I will continue to stay n/c as it is confusing what the right thing to do is. Or there simply is no wrong or right thing in my sitch it's difficult to say. It's out of my hands anyway's...........