getting ready for D talk. At this point, my approach will be to calmly explain that since I believe true healing can only come through R, I have no interest in filing. W can do that if she'd like - I won't fight it, but I don't want to go along with initiating the process. Does this look like I'm still pursuing? Perhaps. But it's how I really feel and I want to maintain my integrity throughout this sitch as best as I can. At the moment, I feel great.
ETC
I don't think it is pursuing at all. It's standing up for your principles. Let her know that while D is not what you want, if she feels so strongly that it's what she wants you won't fight it... but also don't intend to do the leg work. I believe if stated properly, she will actually respect you for standing up for what you believe in, even though she probably won't like it.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
