1st post. Bought DB book today. My wife asked for a D a month ago and like many others I am devestated and was doing many wrong things like being emotional, begging, questioning ect. I want to make things work and I think DB is the tool I need based on posts I have read with similar situations. Most of the advice I have gotten so far is to move on and I don't want to give up that easily.
Friends and relatives have good intentions, they really do think "moving on" is for the best. MWD talks about this in the beginning of DR, it's important for you to understand that while their intentions are good, their advice isn't.
At one month since BD you're still very early in your sitch, so you're in a good position for effective DB'ing. Read the book. Post more details about your sitch, let us know what led to this, what mistakes you feel you made in the M and what 180's you're working on. Read the chapter on goal-setting and put a list together, post it here for feedback.
Take a deep breath, this is a long marathon rather than a short sprint. You've got plenty of time.
Sorry you find yourself here. Its a tough situation you find yourself in but you have found a valuable resource. Be sure to post the details of your situation so that others can have a baseline and provide the best insights.
Getting responses at first may be slow while on moderation, but be sure to read other peoples situations. You will find similar stories and hopefully learn from some of the advice given to them. Just keep posting and hang in there.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014
