I re-read my post above. I regret it sounds like I've painted her as a victim. She most likely has things in her past as well. I am not saying you are a bad person and she's not, but rather that you both are individuals with different pasts and feelings and that you both need to work on yourselves, and as a couple.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012