Her venting is part of her healing. If you really want to help her, you, and the marriage, it's part of the deal. People grieve and heal in different ways, and it's compounded without professional help. What ever happened in your short marriage seems to have been pretty traumatic for her.
I agree with AS, it seems like you want a quick fix and since you aren't getting it, you are ticked off.
I hate to say it, but you need to learn what's going on with you. You've been here twice now and you seem to think you've changed and figured it out in a couple of months, and without IC. I'm telling this to you as a virtual friend, there is no way you've cured whatever bad dynamic happened in the M.
I can only share from my experience that I was separated for 14 months, had over 50 IC sessions, and we've been back together for 15 months now, and I learned last night that I've back slid a little on some of the things that hurt our M in the past, and I am booking a IC appointment in 20 minutes when their office opens.
Being in a great M is A LOT of work and never stops.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
