One giant leap forward! - Part 8

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Heard very little from W early in the week. I messaged her on Wednesday to tell her that I cannot afford to keep the cats anymore and she will need to take them or I will start lookig for another home for them.
I found this very difficult but I never wanting animals, I don't pay them any attention I just feed them, they don't get the love they deserve.
W came back with all sorts from selling the house to remortgaging to save money so I could keep them. I told her I couldn't sell the house or anything else because of her home rights. She said I could do it with her permission.
She said she would agree to a remortgage if she got some of the money from the remortgage and then half later on when the house sells.
This would make it practically useless for myself.

She said she asked her landlord and they said really she shouldn't have the cats but they will let her.

On Wednesday morning she text this:
W: What is your annual salary? Now that is has been "cut"?
Me: Why?
W: Well I'm wanting to know why the csa are taking so long with the kids money. I'm barely scraping by here now you are not financially supporting your kids.
Me: Don't pull that one. You chose the CSA route. I don't have a choice in the matter. My salary was excessively incorrect and I contacted them about it when I got the paper work. They sent me papers to fill in which I got on Monday. I am posting them back today. Have you tried contacting them?
W:Your salary was 'incorrect' since when??? Last April and only now your doing something about it. I know full well you get a payslip each month with your annual pay on it and only now you are correcting it. Very [censored] convenient. It's the kids you are holding back on. The house is freezing and I need nappies. I don't mind going hungry myself but when I'm scraping by and having to borrow money for petrol it's not a very nice thing. I'm disgusted that you can treat your kids this way. You are not a man!
And now I have two bloody cats to feed. Do you know what. Keep the cat's cos I cant afford them either! You are a heartless bastard and I'll never forgive you for putting me and the kids in this situation. I'm gonna make sure everyone knows what a [censored] dad you are. You won't be having these kids until youstart financially supporting them. You disgust me.
M: When i received the CSA paperwork it had my salary wrong. I contacted them that day and spoke to them. They said they would send some paperwork out to me and contact work. A week later I contacted them again and said I didn't receive anything. They chased it up for me.
M: Monday I received the paperwork, I have done what needs doing and sending it back today.
M: It blows my mind that you blame me for all of your problems.
W: YOU are my [censored] problem!!!
W: I wish I'd never met you

Two hours later (I had to contact the CSA anyway)

Me: I asked the CSA when you will receive the money and they said that you need to contact them.
W: I've already spoken to them. They said they are waiting on paperwork from your employer that was posted last week.
Me: No paperwork received at work. They phoned here and spoke to accountant. He said they asked some questions and he had to correct some details they had about me.

The next day...
Me: Can I Skype the kids please?
No reply.

Sunday night:
W: You are an absolute loser for not turning up or evening contacting your child on his birthday. Shame on you!!!
I didn't reply.

So she see's it as my fault that a government body is failing to get her money for her.
Won't let me have or speak to the kids but calls me allsorts for not seeing or speaking to the kids.
Crazy!

I thought I did OK in the interaction. The only words that were not constructive were "Don't pull that one." A lot of her spewing falls on deaf ears now. Can't afford nappies, heating or food. Can go on vacation though.
The text I got on Sunday night hit me for about 5 seconds and I shrugged it off as her issues.
Of course I have missed S2 and wish things were different.


I went to the wedding night do Saturday night. My W's best friend (last year before she left me) and her boyfriend were there (both S4's godparents). I hadn't seen them for a year. They are very middle of the road people, don't get involved in anything.
She told me what she thought of what W was doing and that she didn't agree with the decisions she was making. Both of them were very supportive and I was able to talk to them about all sorts.
My brother was taking the pictures at the wedding and asked me to stand by the video camera to make sure no one walked in front of the camera for the first dance.
I'm stood there at a wedding night do 5 years and one week after my wedding, in a 3 piece suit, 3 meters away from the bride and groom. My W's head bridemaid was there in a bridemaids dress, my brother was taking pictures as he did for mine. As the first dance started it was the same song W and I had!
I couldn't believe it. For split second the floor could have swallowed me up. Within 10 seconds I was fine and enjoyed the moment for what it was.
It was a decent night and I enjoyed catching up with everyone.

Hopefully I will get the kids this weekend and have a party for S2. I'm really missing them.

I've got a meet up with a girl I met online on Wednesday just to see how we get on in person. Should be intertesting.
I'm currently speaking with 3 women online and it's a lot of fun.