Tori, I would be hurt too. But in my case, I’m not trying to maintain the relationship with H’s family, and we not even officially D’d yet. I still invite H’s brother who lives in the same neighborhood to some of my family functions. But, I don’t talk to his other brother and sister. I was surprised to receive a B-day card from his other brother and his wife. So, in turn I sent his wife a card for her B-day. H’s family is known for maintaining relationships and “friendships” with Ex’s and it actually doesn’t play well in my books. I would rather have no contact with them.
You MIL is taking care of her business right now. She probably wanted a grand kid all along and now it is a possibility for her. The only thing I don’t understand why OW is terrified of you? It seems that you are not intervening in his life and calling him or pursuing him in any way. My guess is that he mentions you often and this is not comfortable for OW. But I don’t see how your MIL’s reduced communication with you is going to help in this matter. She might need to convince Joe to undergo a brain surgery to replace that part of his brain that has you in it in “an effort to support him and his new life”.
I don’t think I would e-mail MIL after what she said to you. You are right, it will be for your best interest in the future.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
