I wanted to share that I so remember the stage that my H was in where he remembered everything so differently and said and did things much like your W did at the dinner. He needed so much more attention, as would a teenager. Needed everyone to give him affirmation of how great he was, how miserably he had been treated by me in the M, etc.
I see you handled it all admirably! And to get carded, ha! I'm glad someone else was there to point out how young and handsome you look!
My H said to me recently (as we have been talking more about his crisis lately, as if it was in the past) that the overwhelming emotion that made him want to come home was loneliness.
He didn't have OP, but he had moved into his own apartment. This sort of accelerated his working out of issues. We talked last night about the "what if he had gotten a roommate" and possible outcomes. He said that the ending might have been very different. I don't know if he meant it would have delayed him facing his demons, as he would have definitely been drinking with that person a lot. Or if he meant I wouldn't have waited for him. Idk.
But it does explain a few things a bit. Your W always has you to talk to when she comes in from partying. My H had an empty apartment. And some friends that didn't care if he drank and drove, etc.
Yes, he had some girls arguing over him, which was only gratifying at the beginning. Eventually, he said he really wanted to be just happily M again. And that is what he sought. The longing in his heart for that R has helped us weather a few storms in 2013.
You're doing wonderfully, FY. Just wanted to share a little with you from my sitch I found out recently.
I think it's great you are signing up with some help online. I'm looking forward to hearing about the visit with IC on Weds. Is he/she on board with your philosophy or do you not yet know?
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
