TTD, Pema Chodron says that when these thoughts come into your head, just say "Thinking" and be kind to yourself and roll them away, like a ball. Say it out loud.
That has helped me tremendously ( well, that and red wine, but i digress)
Thanks for your replies KP and Pud There goes another smiley face, I aim to please I'll try that mantra KP, it sounds good Pud, it just shows that I've not detached yet from him. I'll be glad when I get back to the point when I wake up humming or singing a song, which I haven't been doing lately. I miss that, but it's not because I'm thinking of H because it's normally a hymn or a religious song. I'm going to go all religious on you all now, but when that happens I feel that God is with me Anyway, on a positive note - Went to Church this morning and felt uplifted It was just what I needed! Didn't see my friend at Church this morning, so went home and watched BBT with our lunch. I had a nap this afternoon, I was really tired for some reason. I did a bit of decluttering this afternoon, let me hear you say "heck yeah!" lol. It wasn't much but it was a start. I tidied out a kitchen cupboard Just waiting for my dinner to cook and then we're going to watch BBT again and X Factor. BTW MH, I was cleaning out a cupboard in my PJs and dressing gown lol. Not quite my underpants! I had a bath and decided to get ready for bed. Time to slob out in front of the TV for the rest of the evening
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
No cleaning out or decluttering for me at all this weekend, although my dad did clean out his workbench area in the basement. He said that now he can get to his bench since H's tools are gone, he may as well clean off the many years of dust LOL.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I can't do much more, I've got a bad back at the mo. I seriously think I'm going through the menopause. Ratty person here I come Making an appt with the doc later this week.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Hope your back is better. I really feel for you - I've had back problems since I managed to slip a disc when I was at university - and two epidurals during childbirth haven't helped either.
The beauty college near my work doesn't do massages. They specialize in cosmetics - I could get a cheap makeover but if I want a massage I'd have to go to one of their other campuses. I'm going to check out the spas near work and see how much they'd charge.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Are their other campuses too far away then? We've got clients in this week, so no chance of a infra red back treatment for me! I'm off to see the college mentor today, so looking forward to having a chat with her No news on the H front, I've taken to putting my mobile phone on silent whilst I'm at home. It will be interesting to see what he does this weekend when he picks up my son. Still at least I've got a night out to look forward to My back feels a bit better today thanks NQ The weather's been lousy, it's rained none stop! I can't remember the last time it didn't rain all day!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Yep, their other campuses are in a different city. If I happen to have a day off and go into the city I could probably book something. Some of the spas have lower rates for new talent so I'm checking into those.
We've had rain off and on over the last few days, although we've got sunshine right now even though it's pretty chilly. And tomorrow's forecast has that nasty "f" word in it - they're calling for below zero temperatures and possible flurries. Ugh, it's too early for that.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Nq, your weather is nearly the same as ours We've had sunshine today and it's been quite mild as well, it's stopped raining for a change, YAY!! Had a good day today. It started off quite stressy though, we missed the first bus because my son forgot his wallet and we had to go back to the house to get it! I went to see the college mentor today. I was pleasantly surprised what services they can offer you She going to refer me to a counselling service and ask for a counsellor who practices CBT I hope that's the right one I've got to ask for. Anyway, this organisation normally costs a lotta money, but I'm getting the service for free Yippee I also mentioned about finding my son activities to do during the day and she's going to refer him to autism outreach team who may be able to find him something to do So all good in the hood Out again tonight, not really a social activity. Every year we do a stable trail for the kids from the Churches. The Church is sectioned off with curtains and the kids go around the different areas that tell the story of the nativity (with a bit of humour thrown in!) They have a "tour guide" who shows them round and each area has a different activity or craft for the kids to do. As well as the stable trail there's more crafts and refreshments in the Church hall. A lot of planning goes into it as you can imagine, so I'm off to a meeting tonight to discuss it It's a really good event and enjoyed by everyone, even the ones that help out It's a good start to the holiday season and makes you feel more christmassy
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
There goes another smiley face, I aim to please 