The View from the Blanket VI

[BrightFuture]

Oh, busting, I understand what you going through. I don’t have small kinds, but I feel pain for my son, who is 25 now. H has had no contact with him for months. I feel like I failed my son again by choosing the wrong man to replace his father, who was not interested in him at all when he was little and in all these years after. I know you feel pain for your kids not being your H’s priority. But no matter what you do you cannot change how H behaves now. He needs to figure it out for himself. I think you are right to set the stricter boundaries with H visitations.

I also know what you mean when you question if what you had with H was not real. This is something you are doing subconsciously to protect yourself. I hope that this is just one of the stages of the transition to the happier times. I hope this for myself too. Keep posting and expression your feelings.

Don’t really know what to say about how to react to a “nicer” H, still trying to figure it out for myself. Though in my case it is easier, since he is far away.