It's still football season-when's my bye week?

[reachingHigher]

I agree with FY.

I feel like I consented to all of my H's decisions b/c they were what he felt he needed to do right then. I don't remember being excited about any of the decisions that were poor choices.

I did validate that he needed space/time, etc. It can be a fine line between acknowledging some needs that the spouse has that jeopardize your family R's and being sarcastic like, you made your bed now lie in it.

There were many carefully placed truth darts I gave to H along the way that I thought he ignored, but they had to wait till the ripening of the crisis to be effective.

I'm so sorry that this part of the sitch is so painful still. It could end up with positive results as your W may see something clearly that she doesn't want to be. I know she is still that lovely lady you married, deep inside, just buried under grief and confusion right now.