wife hardens heart-5

[planet]

I feel D4 has been disrespectful to me lately. I told her that I will not take her out to the park if she continues to misbehave. I left her at home with the domestic help and took D3 to the park for 30 minutes. I came back and saw D4 watching cartoons and I gave myself a slap in the forehead. The domestic help had turned on the tv for D4. I did not plan this one right.

D4 was visibly unhappy and I spoke to her on her punishment. I really hope that she understands.

I don't know why she's misbehaving lately. The only person that could at least give me an honest opinion is the domestic help. I spoke to her and she says that D4 will immediately shed tears if things don't go her way. That is the behavioral pattern that I also observed.

I took the girls out for dinner later and had great fun. D4 was really tired when we reached home because she did not nap earlier. It's funny that W accuses me of being selfish because apparently I wanted her to nap so that I don't have to bring them back early.
MIL and W has been letting D4 get away when she refuses to nap. Previously W always insist that the kids have their naps. Sigh, nothing I can do there.

Another thing, when I returned the kids I saw W's car was missing and OM's car was there. W came out looking very anxious. Ah, so now OM is allowed to drive her car and I would think that he had offered to fill up the petrol. W did not even look into my eyes and was very subdued in receiving the kids. Usually she would have not come out to receive them. Well, got to revised their relationship status to a notch up now. They try so hard to hide stuff but it just blows up in their face. The domestic help probably knows a lot more of what's going on.

Sadly this does effect me in a way but I'm not too upset. Detachment still in progress.