Thanks Rick for wisdom and forthought, it's like my wife died on me. But she is still alive and non responsive. Lose of love and feelings
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
I know the feeling. I still miss her, I miss the family, the dogs, the want to take care of the house the lawn. But I mostly miss my D. Being able to kiss her good morning and good night everyday. I miss the dreams of getting old together. I miss doing things for the family. I loved being a husband and I loved being a full time dad. But that is not my life anymore. I now love doing what ever I want. Eating what I want, sleeping when I feel like it and mowing the lawn if I want to. I do things for me now. It may sound selfish. It takes time in getting used to it. And you will.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I read sandis 37 rules, I think , I regressed towards the end and acted desperate. I told her I love her and asked her to come back and save the marriage. In reality she already lost interest about a year ago. No oppurtunity to reconcil or talk to me in private. When we exchanged our son, she used to start conversations from past. I tried to talk later and that later never happened.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
No oppurtunity to reconcil or talk to me in private.
It ain't over yet. D has a way of removing all pressure from the WAS. I've heard many stories of WAS's suddenly becoming interested in the LBS again anywhere from a few months to a year or two after D. Keeping hope alive is totally up to you, if you're not done then keep DB'ing and keep that flame of hope burning.
Those are great words of encouragement. I got my son for 3 nights in a row. And this is the first weekend after the final divorce settlement. I pick from day care and drop him in the day care . I text her when I pick and drop him. I will need to find my own balance in life. I need to be doing GAL activities.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
She is planning for a vacation in brazil with our minor son for Christmas I asked who else is going with her and details. There are some travel advisories. I sent it to her interms of safty as its a high crime country. She is going with her mom and brother. I was fine and she asks me to sign papers. I proposed the thanks giving with my parents and son. She says she had already made plans. As per our orders odd years my son is suppose to be with me for thanks giving. It's so frustrating to deal with this person. In the past she asked me to not take my son to my parents for a long weekend. I backed off, she is just repeating it again. Instead she proposes my parents to visit her. She again thinks that I am threatening her if I asked her for thanks giving. I said we have a court order and joint custody to balance and make things fair for both parents. I said I can't deal with this non sense any more and asked her not to exploit me , she says she doesn't care and would like to go to court. I just left the conversation there.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
I'm a little confused but did you ask her to be a part of yours and sons Thanks Giving? If you did I would recommend you back off. You are D already. But if they arrangement is for him to spend it with you I would contact the court.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
It ain't over yet. D has a way of removing all pressure from the WAS. I've heard many stories of WAS's suddenly becoming interested in the LBS again anywhere from a few months to a year or two after D. Keeping hope alive is totally up to you, if you're not done then keep DB'ing and keep that flame of hope burning.
Just the thing I needed to hear or read at this moment in life. Thanks AS.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
She has made thanks giving plans with her mother as usual and brother. The people's now she considers and always considered her family. We did not have any plans. Last week we got D. I texted her for year planning. She send me papers for travel to brazil for Christmas and I said I am fine with that plan. Also asked for if I can take my son to my parents in NJ for thanks giving. She says she already made plans to not give my son and also wants to take my son to Christmas to brazil.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
