Confused about Detaching Part 2

[LoisB]

This is just plain amazing Angela. I am taking notes.

Our convo went around and around and around...but at the very, very end, after he already said several times that he is definitely done, he asked how we would move forward if we were going to try to make it work, one more time.

I told him that I do NOT want to talk about our R anymore for awhile. I told him that I do NOT want to talk about OW anymore.
I told him that I'm exhausted from our R and just want to pause it for a bit. I said for a couple of months, I'd like to just be a mom and him be a dad and us work on being nice to each other and take care of our kids. I'd like to do fun stuff together and get to know each other again with no pressure about a divorce from him.

I also said that I know he needs lots of space and time and I'm ok with that. That i understand if he needs to hang with his buddies or watch football or whatever.

He said, "I don't think this will work. What if we re-evaluate in 2 months, and nothing has changed?"

And, I said, "we've been together 16 years...what's 2 more months? And aren't our kids worth the effort?"

So, he said, "we just chill for a couple of months. make no big decisions. then re-evaluate. I can live with that."

Then, he said he needed to get on the road. So, I got out of the truck, told him to drive safe (cause he hasn't been to bed yet), and went in the house.