kdog. it's been awhile since I posted on the boards. this piece is valuable:
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Good video. Even though we know it, watching it play out like that makes so much more sense.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I went to the Saturday night church service since I am attending my first Meetup hiking event tomorrow morning and would have missed the service.
The message was on dealing with difficult relatives. The main points were- Reconsider your expectations- God never promised a perfect family Refill your grace tank- It's what keeps families working, we all fall short and need forgiveness Reserve judgment- The story is not over and your history does not have to be your future. What kind of relative am I? I know I can use a lot of work in this area, which is where my changes are coming in now.
I went up during prayer time and forgave my mother in law with the help of a prayer minister. It felt good to let go of the resentment. I don't want to harbor ill will toward her or anyone. The minister mentioned a book called "Forgive to Live" about the physical effects that holding a grudge have. I am interested to read it sometime.
All in all, a good evening. Going to hit the weights and elliptical now and then take my German Shepherd for a walk.
Thanks for stopping by.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Your church service message reminds me of a friend of mine who was a pro-athlete...out of no where his body system began to attack/eat away at his muscles. He had to leave the team, nothing the Doctors did helped. One day he heard a voice say to forgive his father, he had a lot of resentment built up inside of him b/c his father wasn't there for him growing up. He forgave his father and his health went back to 100%. He definitely believes in the power of forgiveness.
Hope you enjoy your Meetup event today!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
Thanks for stopping by Mimi, I hope that I feel that same kind of release as well. I feel a lot better than a few weeks ago for sure.
Meetup even went really well, I got some good pictures of deer, meant a group of interesting people, and had fun with a bunch of fellow hikers. We went 5.6 miles, so got some good exercise in as well.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
How do you answer her email? Don't. Accept it for what it was.
I learned that not all emails or texts need to be answered. If you really feel the need to answer... a smiley ( )or a simple "Thanks" works. I would not get into a long drawn out response.
Remember... 180's... change what you would have done before.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
)or a simple "Thanks" works. I would not get into a long drawn out response.