WR, I'm so sorry that this is taking place, but I do think your h's family is very strange. For one thing, the sil shouldn't be getting into the your business w/your h. She needs to stay out of it and keep the comments off FB and to herself.
But, I do have to wonder why she's so pressing about your S going there for mil's birthday dinner. I personally think they are trying to fish w/your S to get information. I could be very wrong, but something just doesn't smell right w/any of this. Please be very careful what you say or do around your sil.
Hopefully your h will settle down and act like an adult/parent around his S, but I doubt it. Apparently he's recovered enough to act like an @ss these days. I do think that they time is coming that your S is going to cease responding to his texts. He's getting tired of the BS and who can blame him.
As for your check...it's gone and I seriously doubt that he'll address the issue unless you or the attorney brings it up.
WR, please take care of yourself and I pray that things will settle down for you and your sons.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
